Archive for April, 2009

Silver Reflections…

This Wednesday, my lovely Red-Head and I will celebrate 25 years of marriage. (The enclosed picture is from our engagement picture in the paper)  I know I am a couple of days early, but I thought I would reflect on this impending milestone in our life. For starters, I am off today, and will be working evening shifts all the rest of this week. Secondly, and perhaps more importantly, I actually have access to the computer. (Sometimes it is hard to get access to the computer as it is the TIVO, so I can see the rugby games that I have recorded)

25 years married to the same woman.

So what are we to make of this 25th, our Silver Anniversary? 

I think that it’s possible to get too caught up in numbers. Raw numbers can be like so many hot dogs consumed during an eating competition. Do the numbers of years together carry any merit when the people may be married, but are not very happy together and live separate lives? (Think Bill and Hilary Clinton)

I think that if you stay happily married for all of those years, like my wife and I have been able to do, then I think you have accomplished something.  I won’t sit here and try to tell you that it’s been easy. There were a lot of tough spells during our first year of marriage (we were together only 5 of the first 12 months of our marriage between Air Force basic training and our tech schools-and money was really tight), and I think we had to go through some challenges while I was going through nursing school-that first year was pretty tough.

 I learned along the way that if you are a man in a marriage, picking up a broom or doing some dishes and doing your fair sharewith work around the house goes a long way to making a less-overworked, happier spouse. (And a happy spouse, tends to be a very affectionate spouse, indeed). My wife has learned that trying to have a heart to heart during a climactic portion of a rugby or ice hockey game is not going work…I think that if both partners are willing to learn and compromise, this goes a LONG way.

In 25 years, we have raised two great kids, who are both now adults. We have a 10 month old grandson now. I have to say that during the time in my life when I weighed about 250 pounds, my wife never gave me a hard time about being heavy, and still made me feel like I was still desirable to her. My wife was very, very supportive when I made the decision to start playing rugby in my mid forties. We are lucky that our strengths and weaknesses compliment each other very well. I cook, my wife does not enjoy cooking. I am worthless with tools and electronics. My wife is very smart with audiovisual and electronic equipment, and has our TV/Direct TV and Stereo all hooked up.

As I sit here on the verge of being married to the same person for 25 years, there is one thought that still comes to mind: I would marry her again.

The Best Thing to Come Out of Scotland Since Johnny Walker

It is VERY rare when I write about pop-culture and reality TV.  Not surprisingly, sport is my favorite form of reality TV-particularly rugby, soccer, ice hockey and the Olympics. 

In the past week, a reality TV moment has created a worldwide buzz in the past week-particularly in Britain and here in the USA.  Susan Boyle’s moment of glory on “Britain’s Got Talent” has been hit on over a million times on  You Tube (http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=9lp0IWv8QZY )

Susan Boyle, a woman, who by her own admission “has never been kissed”, is an unempolyed Scotswoman who lives outside of Glasgow with her cat. She also idolized Elaine Page. As she stood before the judges and the audience, a dowdy, 47 year old woman, you you could see that neither the judging panel, nor the audience expected much from Ms. Boyle. 

Then Susan Boyle opened her mouth, and she changed everybody’s preconceptions.

The first time I heard her sing “I dreamed a dream” on You Tube, I found myself so overwhelmed by the beauty, emotion and power of her voice, that I found myself getting choked up and tearing up. What added to it, was the fact that Susan Boyle wiped the smug, condescending sneer off Simon Cowell’s mug, and had him smiling in gob-smacked wonderment at what was a bravura performance. 

For the middle-aged Scotswoman who had even been mocked by kids in her neighborhood, who had somehow flown under the radar of anybody with working ears who could listen to that amazing instrument that is her voice-how is it that it took until now to find this hidden gem?

There is a lot to comment on within this growing hoopla. I think that since MTV came to be a force in music in the early 1980’s, it was more important that a female performer had to look good. Talent was secondary. You cannot tell me that pre-MTV that Carrie Underwood, Jennifer Lopez,  Beyounce´or Brittany Spears would have been as big as they are, circa 2009. Music has very much become a realm where style has become way more important that substance. Don’t believe me? Does anybody remember Sheena Easton, a compatriot of Ms. Boyle’s, who gained acclaim in the 1980’s, and had her moment of fame. Ms. Easton had a decent voice, but there is no question in my mind, that the fact that Sheena Easton was also very pretty, certainly did not hurt. (Sorry Sheena, Susan Boyle has more talent in her left tonsil than you ever had in your entire life)

I was at Legends Bar in Northeast Minneapolis yesterday after my rugby tournament, watching the news and having a drink at the bar when the news showed the story of Susan Boyle’s very sudden rise to fame. One of the guys at the bar, an elderly African-American gentleman from Mississippi, remarked “This is the beauty of what music is supposed to be. Music doesn’t know about the color or your skin, or where you are from. If you got Talent, that’s it.”

I also think that Susan Boyle’s emergence is a victory for the average person. The ugly duckling, if you will. Not everybody can be the prettiest or the most handsome. I think for every person who has ever felt un-noticed and un-appreciated, I think that we can take heart of the story of a person who has been a decided underdog throughout her life, get positive feedback and acclaim from something of her own merit. 

I don’t know if Susan Boyle will win the overall title of “Britian’s Got Talent”.  I think that she has already won the hearts of many, many people throughout the world. This is the type of story that could be the screenplay of a movie, but the fact that this is real life makes it that much more amazing. I hope that in the midst of this, that Susan Boyle will have some happiness along with the increased payday that she is surely going to get. 

Elaine Page, Susan Boyle’s idol, has even suggested that she and Ms. Boyle try to record a duet.

Just as Jennifer Hudson- a darker skinned, healthy-sized sister- showcased her amazing voice in Dreamgirls to outshine the much slimmer, “sexier”, lighter skinned Beyounce´and win acclaim (and an Oscar) and stole the show, Susan Boyle serves as a reminder that when it comes to singing, substance IS more important than style.

I think that’s my take-away from all of this.

Saturday Was a Rugby Day in Saint Cloud, Minnesota

My Back is sore. My legs are stiff. My cheeks are a bit wind burned. My face and upper torso have cuts and scratch marks on them… yet, I am smiling as I write this, as I got home a couple of hours ago from playing rugby with my Metropolis Rugby Club at the All Saints Tournament in Saint Cloud, Minnesota for my first game action of this spring.I did not ay in our first game that we lost against the Saint Cloud Bottom Feeders  10-5. I did not have a chance to play in that game. I did start the next game against the Faribault Boksprings, I played 3/4 of that game, a really chippy affair, where there wewere some cheap shots and some trash talking going on from the team from southern Minnesota. Their fly half sucker punched one of our other props and gave him a concussion in action that was behind the play as it looked like one of our flankers was about to score a try. We ended up winning 22-5. Our next game was against the Saint Paul Pigs, a rival team of ours from the Twin Cities, with a a lof of players on each team knowing each other from previous games over the years. I played prop in the second half. I had a really good hit in tackling one of their players where he had to leave the game-a game we ended up winning 24-5.  I hope he’s OK, but I admit it, after a really crappy day at work yesterday, it felt good to hit some people today.


Since I car-pooled with another Metropolis player who had to be back in town for an outing with his daughter, I could not stay for the fourth game against Green Bay. The good thing about the game today against Green Bay, it means that there will be no need to drive up I-94 to Saint Cloud tomorrow, so I can do some more stuff around the house, and hit the grocery store. To be honest, I feel like it’s probably a hidden blessing, because as it stands, I am going to be walking pretty stiffly tomorrow. 


It was great to meet some new members of the club, and to see guys I had not seen in quite awhile. It was just a great day for rugby, and the ability to blow off some steam was welcome after kind of a stressful week at work. All in all a great day.


Does anybody have some Ibuprofen?

Hurts So Good…

Went to rugby practice tonight with Metropolis. I was told that I would be welcome to come along and play this weekend, so it will be nice to have a chance to suit up and play.

It was great seeing people at practice who I have not seen since the fall, or the Metropolis Banquet. The joys of my hospital schedule, is that it does not give me many free evenings, as the majority of my shifts are 330pm-Midnight.

The club has a bunch of younger guys who either have just moved to the Twin Cities or finished school in the Twin Cities.

I’m a bit sore as I write this…Augie, our coach is not afraid to have some live contact in a Thursday practice, even with the DI and DIII sides having games the day after tomorrow. You can train, and all of that, but nothing totally prepares you for the running and soreness like just playing the game.

It will be good to be able to play this weekend. I have been under a lot of stress trying to learn some new things at work-like learning how to do the charge nurse routine on days. Yeah, it will feel really good to play and just hand out with the guys in Saint Cloud this weekend.

A Chance to Play Rugby This Weekend??

With the Metropolis Division I side playing this weekend in Milwaukee, Wisconsin and the Division III side (A/K/A “The Killer B’s”) playing at the All Saints tournament in Saint Cloud, Minnesota this weekend, and the fact that some regular players are injured, I actually might get a chance to play some rugby this weekend in Saint Cloud. Here is what our schedule looks like for the weekend: 

Metropolis DIII at All Saints

April 18th and 19th

Schedule:

Saturday, April 18th:

7:30 AM:  Meet at Legends for drive up to St. Cloud.

8:30 AM:  Report to pitch for kit-up and strapping

9:00 AM: Team warm-up

10:00 AM:  First match v St. Cloud

12:00 PM:  Second match v Fairbault

3:00 PM: Third Match v St. Paul

 

Sunday, April 5th:

First game will depend on results from Saturday, April 18th.  Team will have to report to the pitch 1.5 hours prior to first game for kit/strapping.  Warm-up will start 1 hour prior to first match.

Last game will depend on results throughout the day.

I stand to be able to play a LOT of rugby this weekend…what is the old saying:

Be Careful what you wish for, it JUST might happen…

Happy Easter/Joyeux Paques/Feliz Pasqua

Here is hoping your Easter Sunday is a good one. My family and I are going to go to my dad’s house, where he and his wife are making Easter Dinner.

 I won’t be able to stay at my dad’s house for long, as I have to work at the VA Medical Center this afternoon. I know a good number of our patients should have family coming in to visit their hospital bound vets.

It’s a beautiful day here in the upper midwest, with sunshine and blue skies, even if the temperatures are still a little on the cool side.

Bourgoin Shocks London Irish…

 I normally don’t follow the ERC Challenge Cup, European club rugby’s version of soccer/football’s UEFA Cup, but this match was on TV yesterday, and it was just a stunner: Bourgoin, 11th out of the 14 teams who make up the French Top 14 went into London, and and in a pulsating match that went back and forth, the club  located on the road almost halfway between Lyon and Grenoble shocked London Irish-a team that is third in the Guinness Premiership, 30-32. Irish scored a try at the end, and could have sent it into overtime, had England International Delon Armitage converted the try at the end of the game. The above shot showing his dejection at not hitting the conversion and Bourgoin’s joy sums up a very surprising Thursday in London.

The win means that Bourgoin advances to the semifinals, where they will get the winner of Brive-Worcester. 

In a season where French rugby has not had much in the way of good news as evidenced by France’s beat-down by England in the Six Nations, and only one French club, Toulouse, making it to the quarterfinals of the Heineken Cup (Where they have to play the #1 seed Cardiff Blues this weekend in Cardiff), Bourgoin’s shocking win against the highly favored London Irish was a shot in the arm that French club rugby needed in a big way. It will be interesting to see this weekend if Bourgoin can take this form into it’s Top 14 match against Bayonne, who is fighting to keep a Heineken cup spot and stay in the top 6. You have to think that either they are going to be flat emotionally after such a huge win, or they can take their game up a notch against the Basques.

Times Are Changing in French Rugby

Let it be said that the people at the LNR (Ligue Nationale de Rugby) are not afraid of shaking things up a bit and changing things in the French domestic game in the Top 14 and Pro 2, the two highest club leagues in France. The news will have a huge impact on teams who have been dependent on foriegn players-think of a team like Toulouse with Byron Kelleher.

Interestingly enough, the vote was almost unanimous.
For legal reasons pertaining to players already under contract, it is going to be phased in over the next three seasons. In the 2010-11 season, 50% of the club’s players will have to be home-grown. This leads to the question of What is a “homegrown” player? To qualify, a player will have to have held a FFR(The acronym in French for the French Rugby Federation)licence for at least five years before the age of 21 or must have spent at least three years in a French rugby academy between the ages of 16 and 21.

This has been a big issue as more than a few French rugby fans have had mixed feelings about the growing wave for foreign players. On the one hand, they want to win and have success at the club level, but in the big picture, with the Rugby World Cup set to start in a little over two years, fans are wondering if the foreign talent has been a detriment to developing good scrum and fly-halves, along with props.

Another far-reaching decision was the decision to come up with some form of salary cap.

The most immediate change that will come into play for the 2009-10 season will be expanding the teams who make the playoffs. The teams who finish first and second will get a first round bye. Teams 3-6 will play a preliminary round of playoffs, with the winners to take on the first two seeds in the semifinals. The teams who finish 3rd and 4th will have home field advantage in the first round. The season will start and end earlier. The next season will kick-off on August 15 (!) and will finish by either May 29 or June 4. It means that the first few matches will be played in potentially blistering heat in places like Montpellier, Perpignian and Toulouse.
 The good news is that with the season ending earlier, it will mean that when France goes on tours to the southern hemisphere, they will be more likely to have a full strength squad, unlike most years, when top players from the top 4 finishing clubs could not make the trips, giving France a B team look, which really would piss of the people in New Zealand and Australia, trying to create buzz and excitement for these international matches that lacked the best French talent. This should help warm up what has been some hard feelings from southern hemisphere rugby fans towards the suits who run the FFR.
Clearly, this is big for keeping fan interest alive, because now, for a team to finish 5th or 6th meant making sure they qualified for the Heineken Cup, now, a team finishing in those positions can dream of lifting Le Bouclier de Brennus.


French Rugby Jottings….

I could talk about President Obama’s first trip to the UK and France as US President- and the warm welcome Madame Sarkozy had for Mrs. Obama while several thousand protesters fought it out with French cops during the demonstrations during  the NATO summit in Strasbourg…Nah! Let’s talk about rugby, instead. 

Bayonne lost a close one at home in the Basque derby against their hated rivals from Biarritz, 15-19. In beating Bayonne, Biarritz is clawing it’s way back into the race for the 6th and final Heineken Cup spot. 

In another match with major H-Cup implications, Stade Français is now 0-3 at Le Stade de France, after losing at home against Clermont Auvergne on a last minute penalty by Brock James-overcoming another strong performance from the new sensation in French Rugby, Basteraud, who scored a try against the men in gold. Stade maybe counting a lot of money when they fill up Le Stade de France, but they have now lost against Harlequins, Toulouse, and now Clermont Auvergne in their home away from home in St. Denis…  Maybe they should stick to regular home ground. 

With Toulouse smoking Brive, and Perpignan putting a serious beat down on Mont de Marsan (who will probably go down, along with Dax), here is what the Top 14 table looks like:
Toulouse
Perpignan
Stade Français
Clermont
Brive
Bayonne
Biarritz
Montauban
Montpellier
10 Castres
11 Bourgoin
12 Toulon
13 Dax
14 Mont-de-Marsan
Toulouse and Perpignan pretty much have the one and two seeds salted away. It still looks like Clermont and Stade will be the others in the semifinals.

Learning New Skills

Rachel is doing OK her first day after getting her wisdom teeth removed. She wanted to check in on her horse, Maverick, to see how he was recovering after his laceration the day before yesterday. (40 stitches and over 400 dollars we owe to the vet, who did really nice work)

Since Rachel cannot do much work, I had to learn a new trick today: cleaning out Maverick’s hooves. Rachel informed me that horses need this as a way to not just keep them clean, but it prevents horses from getting a whole host of hoove related problems that can become serious. I was a bit nervous about doing it, because Maverick had been an abused horse before my daughter bought him and worked with him. He was really skittish around men, but he is doing better around me.

I have to report that the whole thing went suprisingly well-it probably didin’t hurt that Rachel was nearby. He was a good boy, and didn’t give me any problems raising his hooves up to scrape them out.

It never hurts to learn new skills-who knows if somebody needs a rugby-playing nurses who is willing to work as a groomsman or stablehand.

If nothing else, the visit was a big help for Rachel. If she can get through tomorrow without any major issues, she should be home-free as far as any major complications after her wisdom teeth removal.